ADHD can show up differently in women & girls, and because of this, it’s often not recognized until later in life. Instead of the typical signs of hyperactivity or impulsivity, women with ADHD may struggle with focus or organization in ways that are easy to overlook. In this blog post, we’ll explore how ADHD affects women & girls, why it’s diagnosed later, and how it can connect to anxiety.
ADHD, or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, is a condition that affects focus, attention, and organization. Symptoms can include inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsiveness, making it difficult to stay on track with tasks. You might also hear ADHD referred to as ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder), a term once used to describe the condition when hyperactivity isn’t present. However, ADD is no longer an official diagnosis, it’s now considered part of ADHD, which includes three types: inattentive, hyperactive-impulsive, and combined type. While many people associate ADHD with energetic young boys who can’t sit still, the reality is much broader, and for many women, a diagnosis comes much later in life.
Did you know that boys are diagnosed with ADHD about three times more often than girls in childhood? However, in adulthood, the diagnosis ratio between men and women is nearly 1:1. This suggests that many girls are overlooked when they’re young, leading to years, sometimes decades, of struggling without answers.
There are several reasons why ADHD in women often goes unnoticed until adulthood. Some key factors include:
Bias in ADHD Research: Historically, ADHD research has focused more on how symptoms present in boys, leading to a limited understanding of how it looks in girls.
Differences in Symptoms: Girls and women may experience ADHD differently, which can lead to misdiagnosis or being dismissed entirely.
Societal Pressures & Expectations: Women often feel pressure to conform to social norms, which can lead to masking symptoms and going undiagnosed.
Many women with ADHD experience symptoms that don’t fit the stereotypical hyperactive image. Some common signs include:
Racing thoughts that make it hard to stay on one topic
Working significantly harder than peers to achieve the same success
Fear of rejection leading to clinging to relationships, even unhealthy ones
Interrupting or talking too much
- Difficulty maintaining focus
Chronic disorganization
Lack of motivation
- Fidgets often
Some of these don’t seem like “classic” ADHD, which is one reason why so many women don’t get diagnosed until adulthood.
Women with ADHD often struggle with focus, organization, and racing thoughts, symptoms that can be mistaken for anxiety. Many also develop coping strategies that mask these struggles, making it harder to recognize ADHD as the root issue. As a result, many women receive an anxiety diagnosis instead, leading to treatment that doesn’t fully address their needs.
How Anxiety can feel and present in women with ADHD:
- Sensory Overload: Everyday environments, like bright lights or loud noises, can overwhelm and trigger anxiety.
Endless Worrying: Constantly thinking, “Did I forget something?” or “What if I mess up?”
Fear of Failure or Rejection: Past experiences of criticism lead to anxiety about trying new things or making mistakes.
Physical Anxiety Symptoms: Rapid heart rate, shallow breathing, and muscle tension.
Perfectionism and Procrastination: The fear of doing something imperfectly often leads to delays and increased stress.
If you think you’ve been misdiagnosed or maybe struggle with ADHD & anxiety, it’s important to meet with a medical professional.
Masking happens when someone hides their mental health symptoms to fit societal expectations or avoid judgment. It is a coping mechanism where individuals consciously or unconsciously suppress their ADHD traits in order to appear neurotypical. While this can help in certain social or professional settings, it often comes at a significant mental and emotional cost. Over time, constant masking can lead to exhaustion, identity confusion, and even mental health conditions like anxiety or depression.
Perfectionism The pressure to “do it all” can hide symptoms like forgetfulness and inattention.
Quiet Compliance Women may suppress their struggles to meet expectations and avoid conflict.
Overcompensation Working extra hard to appear organized and focused while privately feeling overwhelmed.
Mimicking Peers Observing and imitating the behavior of neurotypical peers to avoid standing out.
Because of these societal pressures, many women do not realize they have ADHD until adulthood, when the demands of life become too much to manage through masking alone. Understanding and unlearning these patterns can be key to embracing an ADHD diagnosis and finding effective coping strategies.
ADHD in women and girls is often misunderstood, but it’s a real condition, not a weakness. With the right support, those with ADHD can thrive by leveraging their strengths. If you suspect you have ADHD or another mental health condition, talking with a medical professional is an important step toward getting the right diagnosis and support.
If you’re ready to begin, FastTrackerMN.org can connect you to the help you need!
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