Supporting loved ones through mental health and substance use challenges can be tough, but your care and presence can make a world of difference. In this edition from FastTrackerMN, we’ll explore simple ways to support others while making sure you take care of yourself too.
Supporting a loved one who is living with mental illness and addiction can have life-saving consequences. You won’t always have the answers and sometimes you may even feel powerless, but don’t give up. Here are some things we’ve found to be helpful based on our experiences. Remember to also take care of yourself. Don’t forget to find a therapist and a support group for your mental health.
Listen. We cannot overemphasize the importance of listening. Let your loved one speak and share their experience without interruption. Really try to take in what they are saying and when appropriate, reflect what has been said. This demonstrates that you HEARD them. Avoid giving advice. It is not your job to be their therapist or to come up with solutions. Just be there for them. Whether a phone call, video chat, or in person, sometimes all we need is to feel heard and seen.
There are so many ways to demonstrate that you care. A simple act can speak volumes, especially to someone experiencing mental illness or addiction.
A phone call or a text message will let them know that you are thinking of them. You may not get a response, but the thought is what counts, and it won’t go unnoticed.
Maybe your preferred way to show love is through cooking or baking. A hot meal can be very impactful. Often, basic self-care is neglected when someone is in active addiction or experiencing a mental health episode. A nourishing meal can soothe the soul and demonstrate that you care.
Offer to take your loved one to a meeting. Meetings are a way to build community with others in recovery from addiction or mental illness. There are so many support groups and meetings to choose from! Being around other people who understand your journey can ease those feelings of shame and isolation. Maybe your loved one has some medical needs to attend to. Ask them if you can drive them to their appointments! This is also an opportunity to listen and learn about them.
It can be beneficial to stay busy and engaged when going through a mental health episode. Invite them to family functions and give them a chance to participate. Even if they continue to decline your invitations, keep trying. This shows them that you want them around and to be a part of your life.
Remember, we cannot “fix or “cure” people. Living with mental illness and addiction can be incredibly scary and isolating. It is natural to want to “solve” things for the people we love. But that is not realistic. Instead, just be there. Being present is enough.
You don’t need special training to have an open, authentic conversation about mental health or substance use. Simply talking about it can be the first step in helping someone get the support they need. The most important thing you can do in these conversations is listen and validate their feelings.
Here are some examples of what to say (and what not to say) when talking to someone about mental health or substance use:
While listening is the most important thing you can do for someone who is struggling, sharing your own experiences can sometimes help them feel less alone. Before sharing, make sure you’ve taken the time to listen first and ask if they’d like to hear about your experience. Keep in mind that the conversation is about them, so keep your story brief and focused on offering support rather than shifting attention to yourself.
End the conversation by expressing gratitude for their trust and reminding them that you’ll continue to be there for them. It’s not your responsibility to ensure they seek help, but you can encourage them by letting them know that talking to a mental health professional can truly make a difference.
Supporting someone with mental health or substance use challenges is important, but you don’t have to solve their problems. Your role is to be there for them, but it’s not your job to fix everything.
Make time for your own mental and physical health. Engage in activities that help you relax, recharge, and feel supported, whether that’s therapy, hobbies, or spending time with friends and family.
Boundaries are very important and it’s okay to say no when you need to, take breaks, or step away. By stepping back when needed, you’ll be better able to support them in the long run.
While you can provide love and support, remember that you are not a professional. Encourage your loved one to seek help from a therapist or counselor. Getting the right professional support is crucial, and it’s something you can’t do alone.
Taking care of yourself and setting boundaries will help you support your loved one without burning out.
Finding support when you or a loved one is struggling with mental health or substance use can be overwhelming, but you don’t have to do it alone. Here are some trusted resources designed to connect you with the help you need, whether it’s through support groups, helplines, or educational materials. Take the first step toward support today and click the buttons below to learn more or visit their pages for more information and support.
Remember, you don’t have to do it all alone. Taking care of yourself is just as important as supporting those you love. Thank you for being there for others, and thanks from all of us at FastTrackerMN. We’re here to help you connect with the support you need. Stay connected with us on social media for more tips and tools on supporting mental health.
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